Here it's me again.....Hope you had a great day or maybe you are gonna start your day awesomely,
whatever you up to I wish you all the joy and success…..
So, I am asking you a simple question, for answer just yes or no.
Have you got a person maybe more who always or sometimes blame you to the stuff you never did or at least never thought to do....maybe a teacher,a neighbor,a boss,a dad or a grandparent. Whoever that person is my answer is yes.
Yeah I know that moment when you have been scolded to the stuff you never did is so hard. May be your with bunch of people or alone. Where ever you are, you may be in so much anger or you may be crying or your trying so hard to stop your tears, or you just want to kick that person and shout......whatever you want to do ultimately what you do is simply listen to his/her blames and go home or somewhere and shout to someone who doesn't know anything about that. Someone can say that's good than keeping that shit inside your head for so many years and finally been a person with long term depression.
Ok......I am going to tell you simple steps how to avoid that all shitty feelings,pain,discourage and finally when you leave there leave all those blames to him/her.
Step 1
First ask from your mind honestly whether you are guilty to that thing. If answer is no then its no.....whatever he/she tells you do not ever think " ohhh,may be I an guilty......" If your mind said its no then its no.That's because you asked it from you honestly.Then that’s it, whatever that one try to convince you do not ever tell or even think “yeah,maybe I have done it”
Step 2
Wait till he/she stops his blames. While he is scolding do not interrupt. Listen every single thing he tells you but listen it from one ear and let it go away from other ear. Just stay like he is not talking to you but do not show that to him because it’ll make that guy more anger. Do it only from your mind, just ignore……
Step 3
Then when he/she’s done. Straightly and confidently tell “I am sorry if I have done something wrong, but for this incident I am sure I am not guilty ……”
Then that’s it.Nothing more or nothing less. Then if possible leave the room. Do not let the conversation go further.
But always make sure to be polite and respect to that person no matter what, because if you want respect back, you must give it first.
So guys and gals these are the three simple steps you can use for such a situation. Use it and make life events more valuable and enjoyable.
Finally I’ll tell you a little story.
About two thousand years ago in Lord Buddha’s period there was one Brahmin who scolded Lord Buddha without any reason.
Then Lord Buddha asked from him “Brahmin if your relations come to your house will you prepare tasty food for them ? ”
he said “yes, I will”
“If they didn’t eat that food what will you do? ” Lord Buddha asked
“Me and my family will eat it by ourselves” was Brahmin’s answer
“Then Brahmin I didn’t take any of your blames. So all goes back to you…… ” finally Lord Buddha answered.
Have a great day fellas !!!!!
Love,
Cobbs.
xoxo
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